It's All About Me ~ NOT!

Read a page from my new book-

"The 40-Day Fast from Negative Thinking"


Day 37

It’s All About Me~ NOT!


Have you ever had a conversation with someone and all of a sudden been offended by something they said? Maybe you took it the wrong way; maybe they actually meant to say what they said. Your offended mind starts to twirl on their statement. The all or nothing thinking kicks in and THAT’S IT! All of a sudden you’re ready to cut this person off. Or worse yet, you respond with hateful words of your own.


Regardless of what the other person meant to say, our response to the comment is what we are responsible for. Lets look at another unhelpful style of thinking. IT'S ALL ABOUT ME!


This is certainly not an uncommon style of thinking. It is perpetuated by the world in which we live. We are taught only the strong survive. We are taught to be self-centered and told that our success in life depends on what we do, how much money we have and what kind of car we drive. Very rarely does society teach us that success comes from helping and giving to others.


When we interact with other people we have a tendency to think that everything they do and say is centered around us. Stop for a moment and tell yourself...IT'S NOT all about me! When someone speaks to you with unkind words, they are acting that way because they have been hurt. You may not even be the one that hurt them. Instead of feeling like you have been attacked (even if you have) call upon the mind of Christ and ask God to show you what is really going on with that person. Nine times out of ten it has absolutely nothing to do with you. When you act out of love instead of reacting to their pain, you set yourself up to be helpful to the other person, instead of making matters worse.


The world is full of people who react poorly. Do your best not to be one of them. Do your best to think about what the other person is going through and even ask them...hey what's going on? Did I offend you? LISTEN TO THEIR ANSWER. 


A lot of times people are frustrated by their circumstances and take it out on the first person that challenges them. Maybe that person is you. Maybe you yourself are engaging in this kind of behavior. As a Christian it is our obligation to extend grace and react with love. Make it your intention to actually pursue righteousness. Don't just let it happen. Pursue it!


Proverbs 21:21

New International Version (NIV)

21 Whoever pursues righteousness and love
    finds life, prosperity and honor.


If you notice in Proverbs 21:21 there is a promise that comes from pursuing righteousness and love; you will find life, prosperity and honor. The number one way to combat negative thinking is to walk in LOVE!  Love puts others before itself. Pursue LOVE! 


The next time you are having a conversation with someone and feel offended or hurt, remember that love is not irritable and does not keep a record of being wronged. Walking in love means it is NOT all about you...

1 Corinthians 13:4-5

New Living Translation (NLT)

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.


Father God,

Please illuminate my mind to any "It's all about me" thinking I may have. When I interact with other people, especially people I love, please help me to look at our conversation with Your eyes. If I feel offense rising up inside me, nip it in the bud with the blood of Christ and show me what it is in me that needs to be brought into the light. Put a guard over my mouth and help me speak words of life. In Jesus name. Amen.











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